There is a famous quote saying where there is no jealousy there is no love. However, as much as jealousy is proof of love, sometimes it becomes a bother when taken to extreme levels.
Here are ways to handle jealousy in your relationship such that it does not become a stumbling block but something that actually strengthens a couple’s intimacy:
Learn to appreciate yourself: Jealousy is mostly caused by insecurity and low-self esteem cases. When you think you are not good enough, you feel like your partner will leave you for someone else sparking jealousy. Identify your positive qualities, appreciate yourself so that when you feel jealous remember you are worthy of love.
Tend to your past wounds: Jealousy can also come from past wounds such as an ex-lover who left you because he said he found someone better. If your jealousy stems from past relationships, ensure your current lover understands so that he does not overreact. You can even do couple counselling to ensure the deeds of the past do not kill your current love.
Trust your partner: Trust is an important building block for every relationship. Couples have no option but to trust each other if they want the relationship to be successful and happy. Jealousy will remain normal and actually an act of love if you trust each other. When you trust each other the jealousy will not push you to be paranoid and controlling.
Make ”light” of your jealousy: Relationships should be fun too and that also involves the jealousy part. Communicate the jealousy in a humorous manner and make sure it remains respectful. Talk of how that girl keeps staring at him or how the guy at the supermarket gives you ”bedroom eyes” then laugh about it. The message will get across but at the same time, the trust will be seen in your humour.